How you know you married the right person

Most of you probably know that Paul is my second husband. I never planned on getting married again and neither did Paul I think. It was one of those things that just happened between us and very spontaneously we decided over July 4th weekend to get married the next holiday weekend aka Sept. 5th, 2009. To be fair we had gotten engaged because I did feel strongly that if we were going to have kids that I wanted them to have one last name and we also got more money from the Air Force for being married (okay, that's not the greatest reason to get married, but that extra money is nice).

My first marriage...well, I just wasn't ready to be married. My exhusband is a great guy, great person, but not the right person for me. He did not get my "specialness" at all. And I knew if I ever was going to be in a long term relationship with someone they had to get my "specialness." Paul totally gets my "specialness." He will freely admit this, too. In fact he tells me all the time how "special" I am. lol

But being married to Paul I am reminded every day how lucky I am to have such a great husband. That's not to say that we never disagree or get on each other's nerves...we do...pretty regularly, BUT we move on from disagreements quickly, too.

Today Paul spent the day...SHOPPING with me. He even sat patiently reading a newspaper so I could get a pedicure. In fact he insisted that I get the pedicure because I didn't want to make him wait for me. All in all we had a great day together (just like we always do). He waited while I tried on clothes and shoes...in 3 different stores. And he went to Panera Bread for lunch without complaining (cause it's not his most famous restaurant).

I definitely married a keeper and I am glad that all the drama and awful relationships in my 20's led me to this point in my life.

You will know you have married the right person when you can freely put his needs above yours, when he puts your needs above his, and when the two of you want to spend your time together just because you're best friends.